Why You Still Don’t Love Your Voice (And How to Finally Fix It)
By Roxie Francis | Pop Vocal Coach + Founder, I Heart My Voice
Let’s be real for a second.
If you’ve ever listened to a recording of yourself and thought:
“Ugh. Do I really sound like that?”
You're not alone.
I’ve worked with thousands of singers — from total beginners to emerging pop artists — and almost everyone has that moment where they hear their voice back and cringe.
You think you’re tone-deaf. You think your voice is too nasally, too breathy, too thin. You start picking it apart and wondering if you’ll ever sound the way you feel inside.
Here’s the truth: You don’t hate your voice — you just haven’t been taught how to use it in a way that feels like YOU yet.
What Most Singers Try (That Doesn’t Work)
YouTube warmups.
Vocal apps.
Breathing exercises.
Even more warmups.
And sure — those things help. A little. But most of the time, you’re left feeling frustrated, confused, or worse: stuck in a sound that doesn’t reflect who you are.
Why?
Because you're focusing on tools, not transformation.
The Real Reason You Don’t Love Your Voice Yet
Your voice is not broken. It’s just blocked.
Blocked by habits.
Blocked by fear.
Blocked by technique that wasn’t made for the kind of music you actually want to sing.
If you’ve been trained like a choir or musical theater singer but you want to sing pop — your voice is probably clashing with your style.
If you've never had real feedback on tone, phrasing, or delivery — your voice might feel inconsistent.
And if you’ve been singing alone, without any support, of course you’re unsure.
This isn’t your fault.
Most singers are handed generic solutions for an incredibly personal instrument.
5 Signs You’re Ready to Fall in Love with Your Voice
You’ve outgrown warmups and want real coaching
You sound better in your head than in recordings
You avoid high notes, belting, or riffs you know you could do
You feel “too breathy,” “too shouty,” or “too boring”
You crave confidence and clarity in your tone
If even one of those hit, let me tell you something: You’re not “bad at singing.” You’re just untrained in your voice.
What Changes When You Get the Right Kind of Help
When you stop guessing and start getting real feedback from a coach who understands your sound, your genre, and your goals?
Everything shifts.
You:
Discover tone you didn’t even know you had
Gain control without losing emotion
Finally stop mimicking and start owning your sound
Build confidence you actually believe in
Start loving how your voice sounds — not just tolerating it
This is what we do every day in our Pop Vocal Coaching program. It’s real, personalized, and artist-aligned — not cookie-cutter.
FAQs: Learning to Love Your Singing Voice
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You’re not used to hearing your voice from the outside. Plus, without the right vocal coaching, your voice might sound less polished than you’d like — but that can be fixed.
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Yes. With proper coaching, emotional support, and personalized vocal development, most singers end up not just liking — but loving — their voice.
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Nasality and breathiness are often habits caused by tension or misalignment. A genre-specific vocal coach can help you retrain those tendencies for a clearer tone.
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Warmups are tools. Coaching gives you feedback, correction, and clarity based on your goals, your genre, and your emotional connection to the music.
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Absolutely not. A coach helps you get good. You don’t need to feel ready — you just need to be willing to grow.
❤️ Final Word from Roxie
Your voice isn’t the problem.
The problem is you’ve been told to train it like everyone else’s.
When you’re ready to connect with your real voice — the one you’ll actually love hearing — you don’t need another video or app. You need a coach who sees the singer inside the sound.
👉 Apply for Pop Vocal Coaching
We’ll help you discover and master your unique voice and wow factor.
With love,
Roxie
At I Heart My Voice, we help singers unlock their full potential through online singing lessons, vocal coaching, and artist development programs.
Whether you’re just starting out or ready to go pro, our award-winning team has guided singers to Broadway, Disney, Nickelodeon, major labels, and viral success.
